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Transitioning from Female Fisherman to Motherhood with Serena Dabney Read the Post

8 Fancy French Art of Commercial Fishing Prtnrs Like Us! Read the Post

8 Emotions You’ll Feel When Your Fishermen is Away Read the Post

Managing Three Kids in a Commercial Fishing Family Read the Post

How The Newport Fishermen’s Wives Built A Community Like Bosses 💪🏽 Read the Post

How Commercial Fishing + Military Prtnrs Relate AF Read the Post

Meet East Coast Fishing Wife, April Opstapchuk Read the Post

Self-Love vs. Selfish Love: What’s the Difference? Read the Post

It's Ok to Take a Break Read the Post

Other Sailors: The Unexpected Family Read the Post

Yes, Mickey Raphael Still Plays with Willie Nelson and Family Read the Post

I will make this short: Partners like to hear anything from each other, especially when it’s said in love.
If it’s been a while since your partner filled your cup, do yourself a favor and ask for more of what you want.
You deserve to hear these phrases as much as your partner does. So don’t be afraid to ask them to tell you. It’s not a one-way street. Both people need to show up for each other to benefit overall. (You could even lovingly nudge by sending them this post!)
Thanks for being here and joining us on a journey to build the world’s greatest fishing community of happily partnered couples!
Ten phrases every Fishing Couple wants to hear:
❤️ I appreciate all that you do for me.
❤️ I respect your thoughts and opinions on _______.
❤️ Thank you for sharing that with me.
❤️ You’re beautiful/handsome.
❤️ I love your confidence/strength/compassion/commitment/work ethic/sense of humor/smile...
❤️ You’re exactly the kind of partner I want in my life every single day.
❤️ When I hug you, I melt in your arms and feel at home.
❤️ I’m sorry/I forgive you.
❤️ Insert any *spicy* compliment here.
❤️ I love you more than words can express.
If this post is helpful, please let me know! I’d love to share more of what you like and find valuable as we navigate the commercial fishing lifestyle together.
Our relationships are the ties that bind us together individually, as a community, and as an industry.
No matter what you’re going through in your partnership or personally, remember that you are not alone in your experience. We are here for you!
#relationshipgoals #healthypartnerships #lovingrelationships

I remember those days, thinking, “what the F?“ without anyone to say, “I know, right? Here’s how we got through it!“
I am so grateful for all of you who have helped create the Partners of Commercial Fishermen community. What a gift that we can relate through so many different ways!
⚓️A free lifestyle blog at POCFPride.com 😎
⚓️ A private online community of POCFs like you to connect with, find valuable resources to navigate the ups and downs of your relationship and fishing season, ask tough questions, and get 1:1 support when you need it most! 🥰
⚓️ A weekly podcast to dive into the nuances of this lifestyle that only we can understand, and learn more about those who support our industry and are making it a better place. 🥳
⚓️ Right here on social media for daily inspo, laughs, and you-can-do-it vibes (bc you can)! 🤩
If you are curious to dive in further, check out the link in bio to learn all the ways you can deeply connect with your fellow POCFs!
What’s one of your favorite ways to connect with this community from the list above? 👆
#commercialfishing #commercialfishermen #fishermanwife #fishermenswives #fishingcouple #longdistantrelationship #FishingIndustry #FishermansWife #FishermansGirlfriend #FishingLife #CommercialFishing #FishingCommunity #SeafoodLovers #FishingFamily #FishingSupport #OceanLife #FishingLove #FishermansPartner #FishingAdventures #PartnersOfCommercialFishermen #POCFpride

As a captain’s wife, I’ve written about the struggle to find a deckhand committed to working hard season after season, yet I know many hard-working deckhands struggle to find a captain who isn’t a giant A-hole.
(Note: I’m not talking abt our current deckhand or Chris 🤓)
In our experience, our deckhands are great people who eventually choose to work in another fishery or are just trying out commercial fishing for a season before seeking other passions. I get it. Fishing is hard, and if your dream isn’t to eventually own a boat or you’d like to have a more stable income, who can blame you?
Yet, from the horror stories I’ve heard, and Chris has a few of his own, I truly do not understand why a captain would be so cruel to their deckhands.
Obviously, there are some undealt-with anger issues there. Maybe it’s being filtered down from their experience with former mean captains that they feel the need to pass on the pain.
(Can you imagine what female fishermen must emotionally deal with in situations like this?)
I wonder, what can we do as POCFs to help create a better work environment?
➡️ What’s your experience with deckhands or captains? What advice can you share?
#commercialfishing #boatcaptain #deckhands #fishingcouple #partnersofcommercialfishermen #POCFPride

We all face different challenges, depending on the time of year, fishery, business, relationships…
👉 as you’ll see in the slides, poaching is a challenge California fishermen face each year. Yet one of the main sources of discovering answers lies within the partners themselves! Our abilities to problem-solve is innate, we can see from a different perspective, and communicate in ways to help uplift one another so we can all succeed. To be continued…
Drop a comment on how you’d use a magic wand in your life, relationship, or fishery so we can help each other through. 💕
Together, we are a community, created to bring positive impacts to ourselves, our coastlines, and our fishing communities. Even if life feels overwhelming right now, remember, you are not alone! ⚓️🙏🏽
#commercialfishing #fishinglife #partnersofcommercialfishermen #pocfpride

(Seriously!👇) This quote is a common challenge with partners of commercial fishermen, yet these are the topics we find solutions for together in our private community, and here’s how we do it.
You may be challenged with:
🤔 Money/how expensive fishing can be.
✅ $500 will be gifted to 4 fishing kids for school! Plus, in our private community we’ve got customizable budget templates, podcasts, Q&As with professionals and POCFs who manage the books who can help you navigate financially.
🤔 Romantic connection and time away from your fisherman.
✅ This is our specialty! So many resources on how to stay connected with your favorite person to help you and your relationship thrive.
🤔 Ongoing regulations.
✅We’ve got mental wellness resources to handle volatility, a step-by-step guide on advocating for your fishery, and the ability to ask for contacts specific to your fishery.
🤔 Raising kids alone for long periods of time.
✅ We’ve got instant connection to POCF mamas to help build your community, plus tips to make it work and feel less alone.
🤔 No predictability and uncertainty.
✅ You get access to mental health expert advice and exercises plus instant connection with POCFs to ease anxiety and fear of the unknown.
🤔 No one to relate to.
✅ Community is our foundation! You’re automatically invited into our private group chat where you can reach out to us 24/7 when you need it most, plus so many other ways to feel seen, heard, and less alone.
➡️ There’s still time to enter the giveaway for $500 scholarships to four students, and four POCFs will receive one-year memberships to the Partners of Commercial Fishermen private community!
Guy Cotten is a company that truly cares about our community, and this is proof of their desire to make a positive impact. We love you, @guycottenusa!
* POCF winners will also receive access to private group chat, a one-year access to private podcasts (launching 2025), a one-year access to the private newsletter (launching 2025), 1 POCF Survival Guide, and 1 POCF Pride T-shirt.
➡️ Comment “WIN” to get the link in your DM to enter!
#partner #GuyCotten #scholarship #partnersofcommercialfishermen #POCFPride

Happy First Day of California Spiny Lobster Season! A new season (and new moon!) full of potential and opportunities for abundance for all fishing families along the rocky coasts. 🙏🏽🌊⚓️🌚
Over the years, I’ve learned that sometimes the hardest part of the season is leading up the season, with stress transforming into misdirected emotions from partner to partner. This lifestyle can stir up some BIG feelings that can sometimes show up in strange ways. If you’re feeling this or felt this, you’re not alone! Here’s ways to fix it: 👇
Miscommunication can quickly lead to resentment if not addressed. Most of the time, we’re looking for two different outcomes:
1) Recognition. For example, you or your fisherman could say:
“I’m having a hard time this season. I’m trying to work through it, and I just want to be transparent if I seem off.”
HELPFUL EXAMPLE:
You need your partner to recognize this is hard and you’re not looking for them to solve the problem. Still, you want to be open in case the emotions you’re unpacking are impacting other areas of your life together + relationship.
You Need Help. For example, you or your fisherman could say:
“I had a tough time last season. Could we talk through some ways we can support each other while we’re preparing for the season or while you’re away?”
HELPFUL EXAMPLE:
Sometimes, the best way for partners to emotionally deal with the other’s frustration is by feeling helpful. That could be helping you stock up on food for the house or the boat, reviewing financial responsibilities together, helping to meal prep for the kids or crew before they leave the dock, or making an extra effort to send words of affirmation when you can.
BOTTOM LINE
It can be surprising how simple acts of service or thoughtful words can fend off resentment and strengthen your relationship in the long run.
How have pre-seasons faired for you and your partner? Is there stress or smooth sailing?
Happy Spiny Lobster Season for those who celebrate!
#fishingcouple #commercialfishing #realtionship #fishermanswife #fishermansgirlfriend #spinylobster #california #californialobster #seafoodlover #partnersofcommercialfishermen #POCFPride

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