How To Love An Artist – A Guide

In order to love and emotionally support an artist, first, you must know what you are dealing with.

The late psychologist Frank X. Barron and psychology professor Donald MacKinnon found that the average writer was in the top 15% of the general population on the spectrum of psychopathology.

Yep, a little psycho.

On the other hand, the writers scored equally as high on psychological health.

A little psycho, yet mentally stable.

They discovered that artists are more open to self-analysis which ultimately guides them to become more grounded and self-aware.

Dr. Barron once said the highly creative person is both more primitive and more cultivated, more destructive, a lot madder and a lot saner than the average person.

I was relieved to learn this, realizing I am not exceedingly neurotic but just the right amount neurotic.

Below are a few suggestions on ways to care for the artist in your life Partner tested. Artist-approved. 

Compliment

Deep down inside, artists are frightened little kittens mewing and trembling in a corner.

At the same time, artists have hearts of lions, brave to bare their souls on a page, a stage, in a photograph, song, textile, meal, etc. and put it on display for others to judge.

This type of vulnerability begets insecurity so compliment your artist on their work, ideas, or how they look – Appearance is an extension of their creative expression after all as much as possible.

In other words, build them up.

Think positive affirmations as foreplay: Make them feel good, theyll make you feel good. Compliment them in front of other people and theyll make you feel even better.

Listen

Since you are most likely the first person with whom they will discuss their art, just listen. Talking out loud is a way for them to make sense of their thoughts.

But when your artist asks What do you think?share honestly yet constructively. Your artist loves you like a lover and a Muse. They ask because they truly want your opinion and respect your point of view.

Be gentle. Be kind.

Engage

 Ask how projects are going. An artists work comes from the depths of innermost self (After all, you cant spell heartwithout art) so showing interest in their work is another way to communicate, I care about you and I love you.

Alone Time

 It is necessary for artists to step back into the shadows and be alone. Time to sit with thoughts, materials, and recently learned information to see how it all fits together for a future project.

Or they simply need time to decompress.

An artist is constantly triggered and inspired by sights, sounds, people, food, you name it and for this reason, art and life is one of the same and cannot be compartmentalized.

They cant clock out and clock in the next morning.

Being an artist is a twenty-four-hour thing.

This is why time alone is essential and can be found (but not limited to) at home, among a crowd, in nature, or any cafe possessing high-speed internet.

Community

 Besides money (lets be honest), what an artist really needs is the company of other artists. It is therapy as much as it is essential to learn new skills, forge collaborations and, most of all, evoke inspiration with people who speak a similar language.

Artists create to be heard, to connect, and to realize they are not alone.

Taking your artist to (or notifying them of) an art walk, a gallery opening, or a live performance is a simple way to woo the one you love.

Believe

 Artists are passionate people and since you are their chosen person, they are passionate about you, too.

They believe in your dreams and need you to return the gesture.

Show your faith by gifting a certificate to an art store, a new thumb drive to save files, writing a love note, picking flowers to place near their workstation, or making a snack while they work.

More than anything, simply believing your artist is able to actualize their dreams is more valuable than any tangible gift could ever be.

A good hand massagewith oil, rubbing the meaty parts of the palm and slowly graduating to the tip of each finger is a close second.

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