“It’s Different Being a Girlfriend Than a Friend”

This week I’m sharing a particular letter by a POCF new to our community. It makes my heart swell with happiness to know this blog, and Instagram is a helpful resource for women out there! 

Helping us feel seen, heard, and less alone is my main goal, and to know that it’s continually working is worth more than any highliner season. 

Whether you’re a seasoned POCF or Greenhorn (newbie), I’d love to hear how you relate to the letter below.

As always, thank you for being here. I send you much Love & #POCFpride! xo Megan

Letter: “It’s Different Being a Girlfriend Than a Friend”

Hi Megan, First, I want to say that what you are doing is super cool.

You can look up almost anything on the internet or TikTok, and this is something I looked for when needing to cope with things and was surprised to find almost no one talking about it.

For me, it’s not a new concept, and I knew exactly what I signed up for when I started dating my boyfriend.

I grew up in Seattle, and a lot of the guys growing up went fishing. Some for a few years, and others are lifers. I’ve known my boyfriend since we were nine years old but were only friends. In our 20s, he dated a friend of mine. When he was gone, we’d do the girl things and plan vacations for when he was back.

A few months ago, we started talking which I would’ve never predicted I’d end up with him.

I knew I would struggle with this lifestyle because I knew what it takes, but we are so good together that it’s worth it for me to try.

What I didn’t understand is how different it is being his friend vs. girlfriend.

He’s on his first trip since we started dating, and it’s been three months now, which seems to be taking a toll on both of us. Your blog was not only comforting but honest and unapologetic, which I appreciated so much.

I’m struggling with things I didn’t even know I would feel, and even though every person and situation is different, this life isn’t something my girlfriends understand, so thank you for sharing so much.

Maybe one day, I will be brave enough and join you in sharing stories and advice. 


What part of this letter resonates with you? Which part can you relate to? Please share in the comments below; we’d love to hear from you!


Private Forum: If you want to connect further with others in our community, I’d love for you to join us in the private forum! The forum is a safe space for us to chat with POCFs all over the world to share our thoughts and feelings without judgment. If it feels aligned for you, here is a link to learn more

Beach Retreat: There’s also an opportunity to meet with POCFs in person! I’m hosting the first-ever beach retreat this September, and it will be a time to rest, recharge, and connect on a deep level with an intimate group of women. There’s something to be said about chatting in real life with people who “get us,” and this experience will be magical in that way, to say the least. Here is a link to learn more about the Beach Retreat.

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