Letter: “I’m Worried about the Partying in AK”

Letter: “I’m Worried About the Partying in AK”

Letter: “I’m Worried about Partying in AK” is a conversation between a reader and myself that began in the comments section of a previous post. The following has been edited for clarity.

“There is a dark side relating to partying and coping with drugs.”

Hi, I just started dating a fisherman. We love each other very much, but there is a dark side relating to partying and coping with drugs. My boyfriend is clean when he is with me, and he is promising to stay like that, but I’m bothered by the idea that he is going to try again.

Also, how do you deal with all the girls who go to Alaska and party and who might try to get in your man’s pants because everyone is bored and exhausted? Maybe my situation is different than yours, but I am trying to stay positive this year since we love each other very much. For him to go this year was a big decision. 

Sincerely, Concerned on the Mainland

Hey, COTM!

Thank you for your comment. I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’re a wonderful partner to bring this up to help him and you both!

I’ve been in a similar situation, and it sucks! Plus, I struggle with addiction and understand that dark hole. On that note, I’ve learned that there is an AA group up there if he is interested. I’ll do some digging and send you the information.

When it comes down to it, we can’t control how other people will act in the future. All we can do is love and support our partners to be the best they can be. I know that’s hard to hear, but at some point, we have to surrender to relieve the anxiety and stress it causes in our own lives.

As far as other women go, you just have to trust your man.

You guys sound like a loving couple, and as long as you have trust, you’ll be great! Plus, “worrying is like praying for something you don’t want.” It doesn’t serve us and only makes life harder.

Commercial fishing in Alaska means that most of the time, fishermen are on their boats. Socializing is minimal to non-existent. I hope this helps in some way. You speak on concerns that many women go through. Thank you for reaching out. It’s a brave thing to do!

Thank you, Megan.

It totally makes sense. You put your words together very well for me to get out of my insecure cloud.

Trust above everything else, let go of the stress, and have patience. I really want to stay on the positive side.

It’s true; this year, things are very quiet, which brings a little peace and hope for him and the people who love him. Thank you, looking forward to reading more about your post.

 

COTM, My pleasure to help! I know it’s tough. I dealt with insecurities for the first two years of my relationship, most of that fueled by my addiction.

There are AA groups in Bristol Bay and “sober boats” out there. If he asked around, I bet he’d be able to locate them.

Please tell your man that he isn’t the only one staying clean in the Bay, though it can feel like it. My husband Chris is sober, as well as a handful of others who will wake up each day refreshed and without a hangover.

I believe in you, your partner, and your love together. He’s lucky to have you! Stay positive, girl. You are a queen!👑

Are you a partner of a commercial fisherman? What are your biggest concerns when your partner goes to Alaska? Can you relate? Please share in the comments below!

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